BullDurham's blog

Couple weeks ago I hosted my second match on my new mats in my new house. They are 12x12 so it allows me to move around a bit and not be soo confined to one area. A guy ill call “Rod” that I’ve rolled with before was in town for work and messaged me a couple weeks ago asking if I wanted to wrestle. I told him about the new space and we set a time to meet up when he was in town. As you all know, Im a fairly big guy, so its rare that I get excited for a match with someone with some size. Rod is taller than me by a few inches, and he’s been bulking a bit too. So id say he was in the 250s and I was around 300 that day.

Once he arrived we exchanged the normal “how have you beens” and “any new matches” chatter. That melted away as we headed to my garage to the mats. Im not really picky when it comes to rules and gear, so I let him pick. He said first 2 subs in boxer briefs and last one nude. I agreed because I like it that way. We started neutral(standing for non wrestlers) and fought for some wrist control. A few collar ties, and headlocks got the blood flowing. I lazily reached for an outside leg takedown, and he quickly defended it. That made me happy, because now I get to open up a bit. I was able to get a Russian on one of he arms, then I foot swept him to the mat. I could tell rod was a bit surprised, but I was able to capitalize on his position. He got up to all fours, and I was able to lock in a front headlock. I didn’t squeeze to get an immediate tap because Rod is in good shape. So I needed to work on his endurance a bit. I cranked it just enough to keep him in control, but not too tight to cut his air off completely. After about a minute of that I was able to go around and take his back pretty easily. Keeping with my plans to blunt is conditioning, I wanted to go for a leg scissors. So as we were fighting for control, I lightened up on his hip. When he went to roll in to his guard, I was able to sneak my leg under him and lock a scissor on his mid section. I squeezed at about 70%..because I was starting to get winded at well. To my surprise he didn’t tap immediately and I had to increase the pressure. I started to focus my on my squeeze and bring my knees together. Once I did that I felt him slap my leg and I won the first round. Usually after a tap, both guys disengage and get ready for round 2…but Rod had other plans in mind. As I slid off of him he said he was going to grab some water. So I went to relax prone on my belly and elbows, I didn’t realize Rod had gotten behind me and locked in a rear choke. I wasn’t prepared at all, and wasn’t sure how to react. I knew that he didn’t have it tight enough to put me in danger, but its still a pretty uncomfortable position. I fought it off for what seems like minutes, but Im sure it was 30 secs, and turned to my side. Bad move on my part, I gave him the positioning he needed, and the choke tightened. Without thinking twice I tapped, and he released. Funny enough after he won his round he backed off a few feet…as if he was preparing for me to return the favor.

We regrouped, and since it was round three, we took off our boxer briefs. Rod’s Rod is longer than mine, but Im a bit thicker. Im also a grower, and Im pretty sure he couldn't get any bigger than what was already in front of me. We started this round our knees and the mat had gotten a bit of moisture from our sweat. He immediately lunged for a collar tie. I returned it, and was able to muscle him down to the mat. I quickly spun around him to take his back. Seeing as I was a bit winded, and he was leaking sweat everywhere, this was my best chance to finish him before my muscles would fail me. I shot my right arm under his elbow and got control of a wrist. I then did the same with my left, but this time I went to palm the back of his head in a half nelson. Knowing that would cause him to react. As I did that he posted up on his right wrist that I had control of, and that gave me an opening to shoot my right arm deeper into his shoulder, and I now had both hands behind his head. I had my full nelson locked in and he had nowhere to go. He didn’t submit right away, so I started to re adjust my grip. The whole time this is going on, I started to grow a boner, and it was right at the top of his ass. Hearing him start to whimper a bit I just held the hold, and in about 10 secs, Rod said “I submit, Im done”. I immediately released the full nelson, but as my arms were retracting I had other plans for him. I quickly shot my arms under his chest and locked in a bearhug. I could hear him inhale as to fill his chest in defense. I didn’t squeeze at first, I just found the perfect spot between his pecs and ribs to keep my grip. As he’s struggling to buck me off, his butt is rubbing against my cock. I wouldn’t be able to take much of this is my amped up state. Using my position on his hips, I started to rock my tool into his glutes, as I pressured down to keep him into place. He stopped trying to buck me off, but I could feel his glutes relax a bit. I readjusted my grip around his chest and started to squeeze a bit. As I pulled his chest closer, I used my hip thrusts more. After a couple mins of grinding on his ass, I noticed the pressure at the head of my dick was steadily less. This was how the next 30 or so seconds went. Finally I head him mumble “I tap”. Thats when I felt my tool enter his hole. Feeling that I just dominated a man, and subbed him in my hug, I only lasted one more hip thrust before I felt my balls emptying. With that I released the hug and laid on his back a few minutes. Another fun match, and Rod said he’ll be back in town mid summer for round 3!

Met up with a buddy to trade some holds. He wanted to test my bearhug, and I wanted to see if he could last longer than he did last time. He’s about 5’10 220ish. He came over during my lunch break and we got right to it. I let him try a hug first, and it didn’t phase me much. After he released I tried a high grip chest to chest. No real effort, just seeing what he had in him. After I lifted and squeezed his lats he lasted for about 25-30 secs before tapping. I was impressed. He said that wasn’t too bad, and wanted to see what I could really do. I giggled and said okay. I gripped mid back,and positioned my belly button just above his. Dropped my hips so I could use my legs for most of the lift. Arched my back a bit to lean him forward, firmed my core and lifted him up. Almost instantly I could feel his gut collapsing from the pressure my and were applying. Then as I started to squeeze, I pulled my elbows into my waist. That gave me maximum pressure exertion coming from my core, pecs, and forearms digging into his obliques. Every time he exhaled, I pushed more of myself into the cavity I was creating in his midsection. After about 10 seconds, he tapped. I immediately released him, once he was on his feet I asked “how was that”? Still rocking a bit on his feet, before he could answer his legs gave out and he fell backwards. Luckily he didn’t hit his head, and I helped him back to his feet. On one hand I was a bit surprised. On the other I was happy with how much stronger I’ve gotten. Tired and spent from giving all i had, after the match inlayed on my belly and accepted a massage and a deserved pounding. His tool was a longer, while mine thicker. I needed that.

Before I get to the other match I just wanna say, I love to wrestle. I’ve done it since I started in middle school. I did win a state championship in high school, and I also wrestled 2 years in college up in Northeast Iowa. After all of that I coached middle school and high school for the better part of 8 years while starting work after college. It came time where I had to pick between IT and coaching, and teachers just don’t get paid enough haha. I say all that to say this, when I talk about bearhugs or other pro submission holds, it's because I like them. It creates a challenge. Its not because I don’t know how to wrestle, its because I come here for fun and my current fun is testing my grip strength to see if I’m strong enough to make grown men submit to a bearhug. Though if you're man enough for a real match, i'm always game for them as well. :-)

The Second match was with another old buddy I met up with in SC while visiting for a rugby match. He knows who he is, so i’ll refer to him as O. He is a bit taller than me, and our weight was fairly even… though I was muscular and had a strength advantage. After a beer and some chatting, we stripped down to shorts and got on the bed to do some wrestling. We did have a lot of space, so it was mostly a lot of hand fighting, battling for wrist control, and trying to control the other guys neck. O has big/thick hands, so I definitely felt his attempts to snap my neck to the bed, but I was able to withstand. We did that and traded some bjj guard stuff for about 10 minutes, and he needed a break. I noticed he was breathing fairly hard, but decided to see how far I could push him. We started the next round and it was more of the same, just going back and forth into stalemate positions. I wasn’t particularly winded, but a layer of sweat did start forming on my shoulders. O on the other hand was clearly effected, but he was being a bit cocky since we hadn’t traded a sub yet. After another 5 mins, he asked for another break and I agreed. this third period was when I figured id try my hug to get a submission. I asked him if he was ready to give up his first tap. At first he giggled at the idea that I’d been working on my bearhug. said it was a pro hold and was just for fun. After the break while we were on our knees I faked going for his head, and wrapped my arms around his high chest. I couldn’t really get a solid grip, just being able to close my two largest fingers. The first one didn’t work, but I did feel him strain and kinda panic after about 15secs. I let it go, and brought my elbows back to regroup. I Knew I made some headway, but I wasn’t quite sure how to approach the next attempt. Starting on knees, its harder to get the leverage I’m used to. So the next time I was able to lock my hands. I didn’t grip tight, but my focus was to just hold him in place just to control his mid section. By the 25 second mark he was out of breath and tapped. Then I did it again, and he tapped around 20 secs. 2 taps surrendered, and I could see the look of confusion and a bit of anger. We went straight into the third round, and he fought off my attempts for a little while. eventually I was able to get a grip around him. I tried my tightest squeeze which is mid back, placing my belly button on his, and squeezing. I imagined doing a bend over row, which is more back and lats. The idea is instead of using my shoulders and arms to bring him in, I visualized bringing my elbows back which forces my pecs forward into his. This tends to put pressure on his back. His chest gets forces up around his shoulders as my pecs smash into his and his collar bone. He tapped pretty quick, which is to my dismay because I was enjoying it. With me winning the third tap, I flipped him over to his stomach and pulled my shorts down. Already leaking precum, I positioned my tool on top of his glutes and wrapped my arms around his chest. This time I was able to get a good grip as O was in full submission mode. Just using my arms to squeeze rubbing against his hole made me produce more natural lube than I was used to. As he started to buck back, I felt myself slipping down inside of him. Letting my lust take over and sing every bit of strength I had, I tried to get one final submission from him. After about 15 seconds and every muscle in my body pulsing, I shot my load deep into his hole. as I released him, he looked back and said “I thought the back hug would be tighter. is that all you’ve got”? I’ll definitely work on that one.

I’ve been working on my hug, and I had a couple matches that I figure ill give a recap to.
The first one was a match I had with an old bud in a hotel. He isn’t on mf anymore, but Jim is 6’3 about 315 stocky guy. I’d say more heft than muscle these days, but his past training is still there under his new size. Anywho I’d been planning how I could get him to tap in a hug for a few days and decided is attack his air. So when we started I was heavy on collar ties on his neck, and getting him into front headlocks. not looking for a tap, but really just trying to tire him out. From time to time id try to wrap my arms around his waist but he’d fight me off. After about 20 mins of constant motion he was swamped in sweat and starting to hang on me, so I knew this was my chance. With a guy so big, theres a lot of defense under there. The first hug I tried was when he was on all fours. I attacked from the side putting my chest against the outside of his lats, wrapping my arms just under his chest line, and focusing my grip right between his lats and ribs. This hug wasn’t meant to be kept on long, its meant to cause some pain. Luckily he tapped before I tried to squeeze, and my grip wasn’t the best. I laughed a bit, and let him know he’d just tapped in his first bearhug. We took a break and started on our feet for the next round. I asked if I could test a front hug on him, and he agreed. So I wrapped my arms around the middle of his back, about the only place I could reach around. Dropped my hips a bit, so my arms wouldn’t carry all of the load, and then powered him off the ground. Early I could feel he was resisting pretty well, so I decided to give it all I had. So I focused on my grip, tightened my back which flared my pecs a bit, took as deep a breath as I could, and forced my core into his gut. Realistically I knew I could only hold this for 20-30 secs, but he didn’t know that. So after about 5 seconds of that I could feel him struggling to catch his breath. So as he exhaled, I imagined I was pulling tighter. after 20 seconds, my grip and forearms started to shake , and I noticed he was holding his breath. thats when I went for it all. Brought my shoulders back, and focused more on pushing my core into his gut than squeezing. He tapped almost immediately, so I let him down. Being the southern guy he is, Jim said “damn boy you had me on the line there”. the best part about it was how much he was tenting his short and the wet spot that was growing. Since this was a best of 3 match and id won, I was able to take what was mine :)

Funny enough I get messages from guys saying my previous blog post is fake, or I’m making things up. The best I could say is: ask the guys I’ve wrestled with. I’ve been on here and global since I was 18…I’m 34 now. Back then I was looking for super competitive matches like the ones I had in school, and there were a few dudes that I had brawls with, however these days I just like to have fun. Throwing on some gear, working up a sweat, testing strength, and seeing where it goes from there. That meant switching from trying to outlast and submitting guys in chokes/joint locks to trying something new. I wanted to be able to submit guys in things like bearhugs, scissors, and other clinches. I also wanted to be able to lift the 300lb guys that haven’t been lifted off the ground before. That meant, trimming some belly, building a stronger back, chest, arms, and I needed stronger legs so I could to lift the big boys…then keep them pinned down when I’m ready to plow.

RE: Bearhugs working - its possible. There are a few ways to make a bearhug effective. If the guy is around 220lbs or smaller, sometimes the traditional standing squeeze works. If he has a weak chest, I can squeeze up high and get a submission. However some of these guys bench in the same neighborhood as I do and you have to go a bit lower to either cause some discomfort or squeeze around his belly button to constrict his deep breaths. With the bigger guys, its gotta be angles. Try different clinches from his side, the front, the back, also with different grips. Don’t get me wrong, its not easy and everyone won’t tap in a hug…especially if I can’t wrap my arms around them. However, I’m a pretty strong guy. My bench/squat/deadlift are all well over 400-450lbs. I can create enough force to make men submit.

RE: Stamina - I wrestle, power lift, play rugby, bike, and lightly body build. You don’t get abs north of 260lbs easy. I work hard, and I love showing off my strength and build with other men.

So long story short, my goal on the site is to wrestle as many dudes as I can, make some friends, and have fun. I can get as competitive as you want.