It's a difficult discussion because you may not be used to talking about it with others. Go slow, don't feel like you have to reveal every detail of what happens. But above all, honesty is required.
I revealed it early on, around when you have those discussions about sexual histories. I'm surprised it landed without a hitch. It's a topic that doesn't get discussed in detail but just keep in mind that it becomes difficult to obscure what you do online if the Internet can see it. Would you be comfortable with your SO seeing your meetfighters profile, for example?
If they turn around and get upset that you didn't tell them blah blah, it's a red flag. You are trusting them with something you probably don't share regularly, and they are making it about them. Stress that you are entrusting them with personal details and that there's nothing wrong with it. I would suggest not using the words "kinky", "fetish", etc.
My wife and I discussed it before we were married. Fortunately, it was a second marriage; we were both previously married and both brought "baggage" with us so we could be more realistic than a young couple might be. We agreed that there would be no oral or anal sex associated with the wrestling and both of us are friends with my fight buds, three of them for fifteen years or more. I am uncomfortable meeting guys who are "hiding" it from their spouse/partner. Deano in Cincy
You are 10 years in, so depending on your partner's disposition and the strength of your relationship, be prepared for potential shock and feelings of betrayal on her part. My own wife knows, but she found out by accident many years ago, and more than anything she was hurt that I had kept this from her and done things behind her back. So I'm just warning you that that might be the biggest hurdle to overcome, rather than the presence of the fetish itself.
I told my partner relatively early in the relationship too, but for me, as always, wrestling is about the sport not the erotic.
I promised nothing would happen while we were together.
We did open up our relationship but sexual intercourse was never going to be allowed with “a random”.
So, if you want my advice - be frank and open about it but ensure your partner knows that they are the most important person in your life and that wrestling is a hobby you enjoy.
Agreed. Both you and surrey71 are correct on this. Emphasize to your partner that he/she is the focus of your life but that you have an outside athletic interest in wrestling. The rest will come later.
Just wondering if anyone has ever introduced/revealed their wrestling fetish to their partner or spouse? How did they take it, how did you bring it up?
For some I imagine it can be tough to reveal this unique fetish.
I am looking to reveal and introduce this fetish to my significant other after 10 years of being together. She doesn't know I have wrestled others let along have a fetish, just wondering if anyone else has ever gone through this and how did you reveal this?
I told my wife early on when we met. It turned out she was really into it. I am sure it would be more difficult after 10 years. The truth will set you free. I hope you get a positive response. I tell me wife about every match in bed. She enjoys the stories way more when I lose, LOL. Good luck!
When it came to my partner at the time, I told them very early. I said “hey, this is something I enjoy doing and something that gets me going. Our relationship doesn’t hang on if you are willing to do so or not, but I would like to let you know and be honest and transparent with you that this is a part of my life.”
They were open to me continuing to do so, holding back on the erotics until our relationship opened up a bit.
ks56 (8)
6/26/2022 5:40 AMVery much appreciate the advice. The only 6 people who know are my six opponents I had matches with through this site. I'll think it over.
litewt78 (95)
6/25/2022 2:38 PMIt's a difficult discussion because you may not be used to talking about it with others. Go slow, don't feel like you have to reveal every detail of what happens. But above all, honesty is required.
I revealed it early on, around when you have those discussions about sexual histories. I'm surprised it landed without a hitch. It's a topic that doesn't get discussed in detail but just keep in mind that it becomes difficult to obscure what you do online if the Internet can see it. Would you be comfortable with your SO seeing your meetfighters profile, for example?
If they turn around and get upset that you didn't tell them blah blah, it's a red flag. You are trusting them with something you probably don't share regularly, and they are making it about them. Stress that you are entrusting them with personal details and that there's nothing wrong with it. I would suggest not using the words "kinky", "fetish", etc.
GraemeS (0 )
6/24/2022 12:42 PMHey, be up front about it and explain where and when you started to get interested
If you are anything like me you have been into wrestling for ever
SilverFoxFight (39)
6/24/2022 12:36 PMMy wife and I discussed it before we were married. Fortunately, it was a second marriage; we were both previously married and both brought "baggage" with us so we could be more realistic than a young couple might be. We agreed that there would be no oral or anal sex associated with the wrestling and both of us are friends with my fight buds, three of them for fifteen years or more. I am uncomfortable meeting guys who are "hiding" it from their spouse/partner. Deano in Cincy
ks56 (8)
6/23/2022 11:59 PMGreat topic, while I've stuck to wrestling I can't deny the erotic side. Not sure how my wife would react.
grappling hooked (33)
6/21/2022 6:41 PMYou are 10 years in, so depending on your partner's disposition and the strength of your relationship, be prepared for potential shock and feelings of betrayal on her part. My own wife knows, but she found out by accident many years ago, and more than anything she was hurt that I had kept this from her and done things behind her back. So I'm just warning you that that might be the biggest hurdle to overcome, rather than the presence of the fetish itself.
wrestlefan12 (9)
6/19/2022 2:06 AMAll great feedback! I appreciate it and will be working on my message and delivery here soon.
Just Dan (7)
6/17/2022 10:57 PMI don't think my wife would look favorably on it. It's something I'll keep to myself.
JoshFighter (0 )
6/16/2022 9:21 PMWell said surrey71!
surrey71 (22 )
6/16/2022 11:17 AMI told my partner relatively early in the relationship too, but for me, as always, wrestling is about the sport not the erotic.
I promised nothing would happen while we were together.
We did open up our relationship but sexual intercourse was never going to be allowed with “a random”.
So, if you want my advice - be frank and open about it but ensure your partner knows that they are the most important person in your life and that wrestling is a hobby you enjoy.
videostar07 (39 )
6/16/2022 5:03 PM(In reply to this)
I second this!! ❤️
If you’re open and honest, there’s nothing to be worried about!
Peter Hughes (58 )
6/18/2022 3:03 PM(In reply to this)
Agreed. Both you and surrey71 are correct on this. Emphasize to your partner that he/she is the focus of your life but that you have an outside athletic interest in wrestling. The rest will come later.
wrestlefan12 (9)
6/15/2022 11:03 PMJust wondering if anyone has ever introduced/revealed their wrestling fetish to their partner or spouse? How did they take it, how did you bring it up?
For some I imagine it can be tough to reveal this unique fetish.
I am looking to reveal and introduce this fetish to my significant other after 10 years of being together. She doesn't know I have wrestled others let along have a fetish, just wondering if anyone else has ever gone through this and how did you reveal this?
steve6729 (4)
6/26/2022 3:24 AM(In reply to this)
I told my wife early on when we met. It turned out she was really into it. I am sure it would be more difficult after 10 years. The truth will set you free. I hope you get a positive response. I tell me wife about every match in bed. She enjoys the stories way more when I lose, LOL. Good luck!
mwm2wrestle (1)
6/26/2022 5:16 AM(In reply to this)
You are very fortunate that you have a wife that accepts and embraces your wrestling activities. Has she watched any of your matches in person?
steve6729 (4)
6/26/2022 1:39 PM(In reply to this)
She is too nervous to watch. She tried a long time ago. I enjoy telling her about every match.
videostar07 (39 )
6/16/2022 4:27 AM(In reply to this)
When it came to my partner at the time, I told them very early. I said “hey, this is something I enjoy doing and something that gets me going. Our relationship doesn’t hang on if you are willing to do so or not, but I would like to let you know and be honest and transparent with you that this is a part of my life.”
They were open to me continuing to do so, holding back on the erotics until our relationship opened up a bit.