Let your opponent show you plenty of photos, and not all from one photo session. Make sure they are from different places and times. He should also tell you that the photos are 'of himself', not some guy he likes or would like to look like.
I’m new to this site and I was wondering what the basics and necessities are before and during a meet up, so that I don’t walk in blind and get in danger. I also need tips for finding places to wrestle when planning a meet up, since I don’t really know where to look.
Trade phone numbers and actually talk before you meet. Why would you meet someone that won’t trust you with his number?!
Also meet in public first Coffee, a beer, lots of settings that don’t have to draw attention to yourselves. Reserve the right to say NO even at the last minute. Trust your instincts.
Be safe!
simplest answer is: recomendations are your friend. recs == both generally safe and gives you a good idea of what others think. No recs (like a new member) might suggest a meeting in public for a beer or coffee first.
Honest and complete profiles are pretty easy to spot. For example, I try to add photos regularly and date them. This lets people know they are current and shows change over the years. 2009 photos are unlikely to be representative - that may or may not matter to you
I've not noticed any difference in the quality of people who's profiles have lots of recommendations or not. I've had just as many no shows/ghosting from highly recommended profiles with recent pics as I have from relatively empty profiles. I've also met several opponents who had a very, very basic fitness & skill level yet they had recs prefessing to the persons supposed high skill & fitness. I have questioned people who have left recommendations for opponents who lacked skill/fitness yet received recommendations saying otherwise and have been told that they feel obligated to write "something nice" because the person showed up/had written something nice for them. Or both people had low fitness/skill so they just recommend each other as being fit & skilled. So I don't take much notice of recs though I suppose it could be argued that more recs means the person is "safe".
As for photos, similarly, I don't pay much attention to them and I find the people who ask for more photos to be time wasters. I have however noticed, that one of my past opponents is using a main photo that is 10 years old yet has managed to accumulate over 250 opponents. Yet I am also aware of a few profiles that have no past opponents yet have many photos that are regularly updated. One of these, I had flagged as being unreliable/noshow, and that particular profile was deleted and then a new one popped up at the same location with "fresh" photos of the same person. So I definitely don't see that as a "Honest and complete profile" because it has recently uploaded photos. Anyway the website only tells you when the photo was uploaded, not how old the photo is so people can upload a photo that is already quite old.
expat (10 )
7/29/2022 11:32 AMLet your opponent show you plenty of photos, and not all from one photo session. Make sure they are from different places and times. He should also tell you that the photos are 'of himself', not some guy he likes or would like to look like.
DunDonjon (0 )
7/29/2022 7:42 AMI’m new to this site and I was wondering what the basics and necessities are before and during a meet up, so that I don’t walk in blind and get in danger. I also need tips for finding places to wrestle when planning a meet up, since I don’t really know where to look.
Snakee (3)
8/08/2022 1:47 PM(In reply to this)
Trade phone numbers and actually talk before you meet. Why would you meet someone that won’t trust you with his number?!
Also meet in public first Coffee, a beer, lots of settings that don’t have to draw attention to yourselves. Reserve the right to say NO even at the last minute. Trust your instincts.
Be safe!
gymrat (35)
8/03/2022 10:15 PM(In reply to this)
simplest answer is: recomendations are your friend. recs == both generally safe and gives you a good idea of what others think. No recs (like a new member) might suggest a meeting in public for a beer or coffee first.
Honest and complete profiles are pretty easy to spot. For example, I try to add photos regularly and date them. This lets people know they are current and shows change over the years. 2009 photos are unlikely to be representative - that may or may not matter to you
Belligerent (10 )
8/05/2022 1:45 AM(In reply to this)
I've not noticed any difference in the quality of people who's profiles have lots of recommendations or not. I've had just as many no shows/ghosting from highly recommended profiles with recent pics as I have from relatively empty profiles. I've also met several opponents who had a very, very basic fitness & skill level yet they had recs prefessing to the persons supposed high skill & fitness. I have questioned people who have left recommendations for opponents who lacked skill/fitness yet received recommendations saying otherwise and have been told that they feel obligated to write "something nice" because the person showed up/had written something nice for them. Or both people had low fitness/skill so they just recommend each other as being fit & skilled. So I don't take much notice of recs though I suppose it could be argued that more recs means the person is "safe".
As for photos, similarly, I don't pay much attention to them and I find the people who ask for more photos to be time wasters. I have however noticed, that one of my past opponents is using a main photo that is 10 years old yet has managed to accumulate over 250 opponents. Yet I am also aware of a few profiles that have no past opponents yet have many photos that are regularly updated. One of these, I had flagged as being unreliable/noshow, and that particular profile was deleted and then a new one popped up at the same location with "fresh" photos of the same person. So I definitely don't see that as a "Honest and complete profile" because it has recently uploaded photos. Anyway the website only tells you when the photo was uploaded, not how old the photo is so people can upload a photo that is already quite old.
gymrat (35)
8/05/2022 2:55 PM(In reply to this)
right. Safe.
Seems to be what he asked.