Why is wrestling my fetish?

GutPunchPHL (0)

8 hours ago

I'm really glad to have found this forum. It is great to read men recalling honest experiences. I get it that there is an primal alpha response that could get any boy or man excited. That's not what I have. I am just straight up turned on by men. I could tell that I was different form my older bros in that I was just instantly turned on by the thought of wrestling or putting on a singlet or a speedo, where they would have to get into a serious match before they became aroused. I kept this a secret as long as I could. I ran into a problem at school though as we went to a catholic school for "troubled" boys. I really believed that I had some shameful defect. I was already the runt of the family and had been held back twice in school. I was 18 my junior year, 5'2 110 pounds and a tiny waist. I had always been picked on by bullies but my older bros kept things in check, and make sure I didn't get beat up or anything. They had moved on to college now and I was on my own.

That year wrestling was required for PE.. My body didn't get a growth spirt until I was 19, but my junk did. I was completely humiliated in a speedo or a singlet, instantly excited and leaking. It was impossible to hide. Not that I had a monster, but I was pretty hung and on my small frame it was impossible to hide and looked ridiculous. My dad and Coach said "it happens to everyone", "just ignore it and it will go away." it didn't. I mostly tried to hide during class and just went though the motions when I was my turn on the mats.

The other boys called me a [email protected] an tormented me as soon as our coach, Brother Patrick, was out of hearing range. I tried to sneak out of the locker room without showering, but we were required to shower and the coaches always had someone outside the locker room to check that we were showered as we left. I got sent back. Brother Anthony dragged me back to the locker room and gave me a hygiene lecture while I stripped down. I wore extra baggy pants to conceal my problem, but when I stripped off my jockey shorts brother Anthony turned red and stammered a little. "Just make it quick son, you will be fine." Then he left. My class mates where loud and boisterous and horsing around in the open showers. I tried to sneak in and out without being noticed. '

" 'bout time you showed up [email protected]"

Then I was tackled, put in a schoolboy pin, then a full nelson. Jake, my nemesis, taunted me with baby punches to my stomach. the punches progressively got harder, and lower, when he started punching below my belly button. I could feel the guy holding me getting hard against the small of my back. I got more excited and bigger, I had never experienced anything like it and I was kind of horrified that I was aroused while I was being publicly humiliated. Jake was built like a fire hydrant. big thick legs like a tree trunk, solid huge, hairy, bubble gluts big arms and pecs and a lean 30 inch waist, not hung at all, maybe why he was such a bully. He knew he found my sweet spot and kept punching until I burst all over his huge quads, ripped abs and small bone. I was punished for this, knocked to the tile floor. put in a camel hold, forced to look up and was the target of a golden shower by several of my classmates.

A couple of guys waited for me outside the locker room and they wanted me to report what had happened and said they would back me up. I begged them not to tell, and said I wanted to deal with it myself. Secretly I knew I really loved being dominated, humiliated, punished for being well endowed.

I was so ashamed, it took me two hours to walk home from school. The house was empty, I just went to my room and fantasied about the shower scene. I thought this must be some kind of sickness.

Things did get better eventually though.

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BamaJDon41 (7 )

6 hours ago

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Wow. Some intense memories there. My PE class was never that rough but HS wrestling was still out of the question as I would have been way too excited. Thanks for sharing that. Being able to do so shows real strength.

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ks56 (5)

3 days ago

They idea of wrestling has been an obsession since I saw a heel jobber match on TV when I was around 9 years old. I would wrestle friends with our shirts off and I would always purposely loose. When I hit puberty it hit high gear and has been there ever since. I would buy wrestling magazines and hide them in my room. As I travel for work I would imagine fantasy matches that always ended in a humiliating defeat. As much as I wanted it to, the fixation has never gone away. Since finding this sight I've had some great matches, one in a pro wrestling ring. I thought it would go away as I got older but it remains. As retirement looms my opportunities to wrestle will be gone but I am thrilled at the experiences I've had thanks to this site. Why is it such a passion? Not really sure but the thought of wrestling a superior opponent dominating me from start to finish while wearing skimpy but socially acceptable wrestling tights will always be a massive turn on.

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Heel-eo-trope (3)

2 days ago

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Well said. @KS56.
Pretty much the exact same story for me - started at a similarage when I would hide wrestling magazines that had “apartment house wrestling“ photo sets. Female vs female was what first turned me on and especially the dominating aspect of the photos (performed and posed in skimpy bikinis :) ).
Then in the 80s and 90s pro wrestling promoters seemed to know (and delivered in a somewhat subliminal way) what would hook a lot of people: the erotic elements of a squash job - cruelty, domination, humiliation of large again small in front of a crowd and broadcast on TV for all to see. This went for Mvm or Fvf and I realize I was turned on by all of it across the board. :-)

Your last statement goes for me as well except switch the words around where I like to be the one dominating. :-)

It’s an amazingly powerful fetish that I have not gotten to an underlying understanding of “why” either. :-)

Oh well. All we can say is “thank you Internet!“ :-)

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GutPunchPHL (0)

6 hours ago

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I always had a bond with my bullies. At some level I knew they were getting off on humiliating me just like I got off on being humiliated. I was never brushed (much) or got a bloody nose, and they certainly could have done a lot of damage. they knew just the right about of torture to keep things stimulating without doing any real damage.

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Heel-eo-trope (3)

20 days ago

https://www.inputmag.com/culture/youtube-pro-wrestling-jobbers-gay-fetish/amp

Good article on the Jobber fetish in pro wrestling.

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GutPunchPHL (0)

6 hours ago

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Great article. Thank you for sharing.

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Lyonid (0)

26 days ago

Those are some really interesting posts. Genuinely fascinating to read. I consider myself on the ace spectrum, yet my libido utterly succumbs to wrestling. I feel like what I find most interesting about it is the whole narrative of two bodies colliding and testing how much they can intertwine. To me, it is less about the actual testing, but the intimacy of showcasing your strength, as well as delegating the power two partners have over each other. It's straight-up fun and even erotic to some, which to me is a lot more valuable than current trends of hypersexualization. It's unforeseeable impact, passionate emotions and intuition that turns wrestling into such an interesting fetish.

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GraemeS (0 )

6/26/2022 12:29 AM

It’s not a fetish it has been taking place since the dawn of time and it is survival of the fittest
It is nature

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AgentPoseidon (19)

17 days ago

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Well its not <merely> a fetish. But it is a fetish. I've had it ever since puberty. A huge turn on. The technical term is agonophilia.

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JoshFighter (0 )

5/24/2022 1:51 AM

Ben you totally get it awesome post!

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Small Ben (12 )

5/30/2022 12:26 AM

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Thanks man! 😃

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Small Ben (12 )

5/17/2022 11:06 PM

I've always liked wrestling since a young age. I remember watching the WWE back when I was 5 or 6 years old; something inside me stirred when I watched those matches, specially those where the wrestlers wore speedos. I felt somehow ashamed of my enjoyment of wrestling and kept it a secret until my late teens. Growing up in a mostly feminine household, never had the chance to develope an affinity with other boys and grew up to be an scary mouse, afraid of being hurt. Still to these days I envy those guys whose childhood transcurred with lots of male neighbours, creating their own backyard wrestling feds or just simply roughhousing at a friend's place. Can't complaint though. That little thing aside, I had a very happy childhood.
It wasn't until my late teens that I began exploring this kind of websites, creating my first profile when I was 16 pretending to be 18 and thinking, back then, that guys in their thirties were so old lol
Sorry if this is too long but your stories have inspires me to write a bit of my own.
Anyway, why is wrestling my fetish? Can't say, sorry. Maybe because I'm a side gay guy hehe.
There is, obviously, an erotic aspect to this SPORT that appeal to us all. Not just us guys on this site, but also, I think, all men have that urge to wrestle. It's primal. It's two bodies entangled, sweating, groaning, trying to be on top of one another...it's kinda sexual, even the straightest dude have to admit it. Sadly, todays society is making moderna men to feel ashamed of it.
The dominating aspect is quite erotic to me as well. Seeing a man, defeated at My feet is incredibly arousing, knowing he gave his best but couldnt defeated me.
Nevertheless, above all this, my favourite thing about wrestling is male-bonding. Nothing makes me leave an encounter most satisfied than, after all is done two guys can hug affectionely, and having a blast during and after the match.
Yeah, that's pretty much it. If you've read all this, thanks for your patience.

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GutPunchPHL (0)

6 hours ago

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Great post Ben!

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AgentPoseidon (19)

6/06/2022 9:18 PM

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Great post and I would like to share something I wrote on this topic a while back.

It’s Okay.

It's okay to be a man who likes fighting.
It's okay to like other men. A lot.
I'ts okay to have sex with other men.
It's okay to want to be owned. Darkly.
It's okay with consent to own. Completely.
It's okay to worship during combat.
It's okay to edge your masochist. And his sadist.
It's okay to exercise your sadist. And his masochist.
It's this magic thing called
c o n s e n t . . .
It's okay to WANT him.
It's okay to OWN him.
It's okay to DEVASTATE him.
Break him down. On every level.
Make him CRY.
Make him SURRENDER.
INVADE him.
OWN him.
Make him WET.
Make him SERVE.
Make him WORSHIP.
and want only YOU....MASTER.
OR...let him do all that to you.

Yes. It's Okay. You're Gay. THEY can Get over it.

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SubWrestlers90 (2 )

5/23/2022 5:16 PM

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I agree with this! similar to me

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hellcatedy (41)

5/22/2022 3:35 PM

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Great story! I agree and feel the same way. Wrestling has always been erotic to me for the same reason you stated. Hope to wrestle you one day SmallBen.

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Small Ben (12 )

5/23/2022 3:40 PM

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Thanks, man. Glad you liked it, even if it is a bit lenghty. Lol.

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lescraggy (0)

5/22/2022 12:03 PM

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@SmallBen Very nice.

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Small Ben (12 )

5/22/2022 3:07 PM

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Thanks a lot, man!

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wrestlinaddict (15)

5/04/2022 10:31 PM

For me, who never really cared much about wrestling during childhood and only discovered it through BG East and similar, I always saw wrestling as and incredibly hot and exciting sport, specially submission wrestling with strong opponents, uneven matches and long held domination holds.

If i could list the reasons I find it completely exciting I’d say:
- Competitiveness: how hard two guys struggle to dominate each other and how they try to resist tapping when being dominated by the other. The strategic aspect of it, which hold will counter this? Will he be able to keep the pressure? Should I tap now or try to escape?

- Rivalry and Bonding: that macho rivalry yet friendly bonding of two stubborn guys who want to show who’s the strongest to each other. Two masculine guys trying to submit and dominate each other is so hot. Especially if the guys really know each other’s limits (which takes some good fair play and hours of bonding and getting to know each other).

- Contact: one of the best sensations in the world is to feel your opponent’s body all over yours while he tries to submit you using his strength and determination. I mean, remember how good is to feel the muscles of a nice pair of thighs crushing your neck in a good headscissor hold? Or feeling your opponent’s legs in an armbar? Or feeling him pinning you? Or you doing it to him, instead. For me that is both heaven and hell.

- Domination: finally and this one may be pretty sex related. I love an opponent dominating a completely helpless opponent, knowing fully well he can’t escape a hold and is at the absolute mercy of the one who dominates. Might also go a bit on the sadistic part, though respecting limits and being safe is crucial. I like both dominating and being dominated.

Sorry for the long text, but thats for me what makes wrestling my greatest fetish. Happy wrestling you all!!!

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HairyNerdIt (6 )

5/04/2022 10:29 AM

Well this is a very interesting topic! I can say I always liked wrestling from when I was a child watching wwe but I never thought I could've liked doing it! I always liked watching wrestling videos so years ago I found this site randomly and I was very curious to starting doing some matches! And I really enjoyed them! Love to find who is the strongest, long matches, body contact, lot of holds, showing power and so on!

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Wrestleguy40 (13)

5/04/2022 3:06 AM

Great answers and true feelings regarding this topic. Wrestling is my fetish because when I was little I remember the 80s wrestling and the tight speedos with huge bulges sticking out and finding that alone to be absolutely the biggest turn on. Then enter another man wearing the same thing and the two of them putting each other in holds that were and still are the most erotic visuals I had ever seen. I would wrestle my friends when they would sleep over and I would have to fight so hard to not get an erection, but sometimes it happened and nobody said anything. I realized then that I found wrestling to be the most erotic thing that I enjoy. I came out and found other gay guys to wrestle and to this day I would rather wrestle than have sex with someone. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy sex, but I’m in love with wrestling and getting off during or after the match

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nyc31 (11)

5/04/2022 6:03 AM

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Thanks for sharing! Love it!

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lescraggy (0)

5/04/2022 5:58 AM

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Very relatable. I suppose if I was having an erotic wrestle some competition could develop, but the goal would always be eroticism.

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RovingWrestler (12 )

4/29/2022 1:56 AM

Wow, I must say, that this post has been some of the most insightful, helpful information behind the psychology of this "forbidden" topic that I have ever seen. Thank you all so much for sharing your hard-won wisdom from therapists and years of experience. And thank you for finally putting a name to it.

I can only corroborate and add to the theories proposed here, as someone who was forced to assume responsibility at a young age, and someone with an incredibly combative and domineering parent, it makes sense that I am so turned on by being dominated.

Around 7 I moved somewhere new, and spent most of my childhood in my room. At night when I knew no one could sneak up on me, I would watch the 3 am repeat showing of RAW or Smackdown on the TV in my room. I set up a music stand between my desk and my bed, a good sturdy steel bar a few inches in width. I would push my stomach as hard as I could against the bar, completely folding myself over it, and holding myself there for as long as a jobber would be in a submission, or throw myself on it again when they were punched or racked. My parents could never figure out why there were deep divets in the desk holding up the other side of the bar. I would try to physically put myself into the submissions just by myself, so I could feel what it would be like to be in the hold. I would try to sleeper myself out with belts, Boston crab myself against walls, imagining John Cena, Eddie Guerrero, Hardcore Holly, Randy Orton, Chris Masters, Chris Benoit, Steve Austin, JBL, "American Badass" period Undertaker (biker fetish for anyone else now?) laughing at me or picking on me like an 80's high school movie villain.

That eventually turned into me wrestling with a friend whose house I slept at a lot. I would try to maneuver myself *just* right to end up in the moves I was hoping for... (something that probably still serves me well.) I would have to sneak away for a long shower afterwards every time. It was never sexual for him, but I would imagine the matches we had for days afterwards, having my face rubbed in the floor, or taking blow after blow to the shoulders and arms in armbars.

I had a hard time as a kid. I was terrified of being perceived as gay because I had a parent who was pretty relentless with the teasing of my more effeminate traits at the time. So I stayed as far as I could from any sports related activities at school. Of course I WANTED to wrestle, but I felt like I would be instantly given away with how much I was enjoying it and why. So instead I stayed as far as I could from any jocks, delved into the world of performing arts, since I was from a musical family. I came out at 16 before my senior year of high school, not really entirely by choice. By then I was safe at the top of the social totem pole of the large performing arts program at my school. But it definitely put a nail in the coffin for any male friendships I had at that point.

I feel like because of this, I have had a hard time learning to connect with other men. There is so much shame around this subject, but as they say, the way to dispel shame is to talk about it. I've had my fair share of matches through the years now (starting on globalf when I was 17), and I'm really glad to have this community and interest. It brings a lot into my life. And as I have gotten older, the workout benefits, the desire to learn fighting styles... it's an interest that keeps giving.

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Small Ben (12 )

5/17/2022 4:02 PM

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Nice posting, man.

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grappling hooked (31)

5/04/2022 9:22 PM

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Great posting – thanks for sharing it!

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JoshFighter (0 )

4/29/2022 8:26 PM

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Wow bro that was great thanks for sharing!

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nyc31 (11)

4/29/2022 6:43 PM

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I hear you. Thanks for sharing!

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SilverFoxFight (35)

4/29/2022 12:21 PM

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Well said and thanks for sharing! Deano

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Heel4youguy (1)

4/16/2022 7:48 AM

Wrestling has been my fettish since I was at least 5-6 years of age.Just the sight of men in trunks and boots,gets me hard everytime. We wrestled as kids, and enjoyed the struggle for dominance-as most guys do.As a young adult, my interest lessened,but the discovery of the internet opened-out an entirely new and Global Vista.

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jwest1111 (0)

4/16/2022 8:30 PM

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Yes, I know how it is. I'm the same way, only I think of guys giving me sleeper holds. It's usually younger ones with muscles, especially bigger biceps, but also heavy guys (300 lbs, etc). I've asked any number of people in gyms where I belonged if they're into martial arts and led up to the question about sleepers. I haven't found very many who are into it, though. It goes way back into my childhood just like other guys here.

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Devgrapple (3)

4/14/2022 10:11 PM

I must admit I have found myself looking twice at random men, considering who would win lol

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guywhowrestles (0)

4/15/2022 6:24 PM

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I look at a lot of good looking young men and want to invite them to wrestle with me. Alone, just the two of us, stripped down to basic shorts. I hope to find more in my life who are willing to do this with someone 55 years old, ME!

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Mainewrsl (34)

4/15/2022 9:02 PM

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I'm willing but not young any more!

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JerseyLuchador (10 )

4/14/2022 9:45 PM

Thanks JoshFighter. Yeah it’s exhilarating matching up against another man to see who can outmuscle who. If there is some extra during or after the match that’s just a bonus. Question for you men here. How many of you met a man that you’re attracted to? Not necessarily to have sex with, but to fight with. Through my wrestling years that’s happened to me several times. I’ve been somewhere and find a man attractive but to fight with not have sex with per-say. There were a couple of occasions that I went home with men, and have goated them into a fight. I found it more satisfying then sex.

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alexmarks (0)

10 days ago

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My husband isn't in to wrestling as much as I am, but he often turns it on for me when we have sex.

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tonyfigur (5)

5/14/2022 12:39 AM

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Yes, it takes a minute to cum whereas a fight is one long orgasm.

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JoshFighter (0 )

4/14/2022 8:03 PM

JerseyLuchador is on point totally gets it!

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JerseyLuchador (10 )

4/14/2022 2:21 PM

Hey Devgrapple. Wish you were closer. You're have the kind of body that I like to torture during a match. Making you submit over and over. All the while making you suffer during a match.

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JOKING (27)

4/14/2022 6:47 AM

Well now i just learned the word for it Thank U!

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JoshFighter (0 )

4/11/2022 8:07 PM

Awesome posts guys totally get it!

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Devgrapple (3)

4/10/2022 8:49 PM

Thinking about it too much without getting any action doesn't help

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Devgrapple (3)

4/09/2022 9:37 PM

Nice post Jerseyluchador, out of interest... Did you ever get a boner during any of these early matches?

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JerseyLuchador (10 )

4/09/2022 10:18 PM

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Most of the time. Yes. Even when wrestling straight friends and acquaintances. If you notice a lot of the college wrestlers come up with boners while wrestling. I believe it’s all the testosterone released while thinking of overpowering another man.

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Jorgeler (11 )

28 days ago

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Being turned on when you fight is not just about fetishes or testosterone. It's getting sexually horny, come on... You can't go to a straight club with your dick standing up just because... Getting hard is caused because there is a homosexual element.

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JerseyLuchador (10 )

4/08/2022 3:01 PM

The fetish of fighting or wrestling never leaves you once it gets started. I started as a pre-teen and to this day I get excited and hard when I see a man that I would like to get into a fight with. As I stated earlier it started with with friends, then gravitated to neighborhood boys, and then throughout school and college. Nothing to me is better to get to know another male then mixing it up with him. That is why I joined a wrestling club at an early age. I found like minded guys that I could get into fights and matches with. The bonding of two men as they try to out muscle each other while gaining an advantage over the other is exciting to me. Win or lose. It's just gives me a hard on!

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hellcatedy (41)

4/10/2022 3:47 PM

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Yep! Wrestling always makes my dick hard too.

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JoshFighter (0 )

4/05/2022 9:36 PM

When I was in 6th grade I saw this cute latin guy body slam another kid in the lunch room. I was attending a huge public school in NY. I was some what of a geek and he was the cool kid on the block and I had a huge crush on him. Teachers trusted me and would send on errands to get supplies or relay messages to other rooms. One day at the end of school I asked to leave early and went to the other classroom and asked for Jose to be excused with books and clothing to the principles office. He asked me what was up and I said just follow me. We went upstairs to the empty side of the school into another gymnasium where I challenged him to wrestle. To my surprise we wrestled for 20 minutes. I was so excited my first real wrestling match.

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bnjifghtr (1)

4/29/2022 7:44 PM

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Hey man this is an awesome story bro. - wish I’d had the courage to challenge guys that I had sized up to actually challenge them to a wrestle when I was younger !

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nyc31 (11)

4/06/2022 8:58 AM

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hot fucking story

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Robin Carter (19)

4/06/2022 2:31 AM

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Truly awesome!
Thanks for sharing, Josh.

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guywhowrestles (0)

4/05/2022 9:38 PM

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SUPER great memory there, Josh. What guts you had to challenge him to a match like that as your first match. Good that you two could be alone to go at it.

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JoshFighter (0 )

4/05/2022 10:08 PM

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Thanks bro I was sweaty bullets when I did that.

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wrestleguyb (2)

4/06/2022 8:58 PM

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I wish you had challenged me wrestle! Lol

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guywhowrestles (0)

4/05/2022 10:22 PM

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I sure respect you for all that courage as a young kid, man! Also happy to know it worked out pretty well for you both.

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jwest1111 (0)

4/05/2022 8:40 PM

My fetish started with TV wrestling when I was a kid, especially sleeperholds. The fantasy was so strong that I had to wrestle guys even though I was the worst in my gym class and always lost. Later on, I took up jogging and weight training. But the thing hung over me. I remember I asked the guy with the biggest biceps at one gym where I belonged to put me in a sleeperhold, and, surprisingly, me was glad to oblige. I finally saw one wrestling someone else at the large university rec. center I belonged to, and asked if I could wrestle him, too. He beat me with no trouble. It turned out he was a bjj trainer giving samples of what he teaches, and I signed on with him immediately. A short time later I found someone who became my regular practice partner. He was a gifted athlete, and we always went for sleepers, and he always won. I go for young muscular guys and heavy guys who are into sleepers and can beat me in the end. After the longest time, I found that I have agonophilia, which is an attraction to fighting of some kind, and I'm not alone.

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Devgrapple (3)

4/04/2022 11:21 PM

Agree with lots of the comments on this one. It's exciting, whether or not you find it sexual

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ant-tor (2)

4/04/2022 5:25 PM

Love idea of owning another man on the mats or in oil/mud. Being the dominant fighter. Especially wrestling a bud in front of his father. Father cheering his son on. Even though as no chance

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JoshFighter (0 )

3/23/2022 7:35 PM

For me it's all mental the idea of dominating another male in a physical way and adrenaline that goes with it.

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bnjifghtr (1)

4/29/2022 7:48 PM

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Heck yeh it is bro

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lighthouseguy (4 )

3/23/2022 4:06 AM

For some jobbers, this kind of alternative wrestling is comparable to what some alpha males are looking for when they go to domination places. Being gently whipped and insulted by a leather-clad female gives them relief from their usual situation of being in charge, where they are expected to succeed and be hyper masculine.

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JerseyLuchador (10 )

3/22/2022 10:26 AM

The thought of two men planning, setting up a time and date to meet for a match gets me hard. The anticipation of that date coming when we meet to fight and bond over during a match gets me excited and hard.

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MvM 4 F (0 )

7/12/2022 12:03 AM

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Yes! And I love it when it’s a neutral site match so there’s no home advantage. Especially if it’s in front of a woman!

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headscissorschgonwburbs (23 )

8/06/2020 3:51 PM

Just hearing or saying the word wrestle get an insta-hardon!!

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lescraggy (0)

3/22/2022 5:11 AM

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Or spotting it on paper.

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Magneto (5)

5/09/2021 11:04 PM

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I’m right there with you. Talk about wrestling and I get bone hard! 🍆

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FightGames (31 )

5/10/2021 1:31 AM

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And i m rright with you as wrll.....even more.. during a fight if opponrnt saysd certain words as fight wredtle entangle figthrepeatedly with a good rythm.......he makes me cum

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Wrestleguy40 (13)

8/07/2020 2:44 AM

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Absofuckinglutely!!

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headscissorschgonwburbs (23 )

8/07/2020 3:23 AM

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haha I have a new word luv it

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lescraggy (0)

8/06/2020 5:00 PM

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I use to look it up in the library encyclopedia at school. Start to get hard on Wren.

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NYC Wrestling (58)

8/15/2020 8:54 PM

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My high school had two books about wrestling technique, even though we had no wrestling team. Needless to say I took those books out often, and photocopied the hottest pics!

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lescraggy (0)

3/22/2022 5:12 AM

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My hands were always under the library table.

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FightGames (31 )

5/10/2021 1:34 AM

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Same here how many cums

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lescraggy (0)

8/16/2020 1:59 AM

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Nice move. Look at them in private.

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twisterman (37 )

8/06/2020 5:10 PM

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Oh God I remember doing the same thing!

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lescraggy (0)

8/06/2020 5:37 PM

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I wish I had recognized others

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headscissorschgonwburbs (23 )

8/06/2020 5:02 PM

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me too and the pics

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lescraggy (0)

8/06/2020 5:18 PM

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The two at school were better than the one t home. It had hold drawings nd some Mateus.

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luv2grapple (1)

7/19/2020 12:44 PM

The need to wrestle was strong with me even before puberty. I remember other boys challenging me or me challenging other boys at a young age to wrestle. That takes all the psychological stuff off the table. At least for me. But, I also noticed not all boys liked or desired to wrestle. Just some around in the neighborhood. But, growing up & becoming a teenager it was the same thing. Only some guys were much more aggressive. And as a man I still have a desire to wrestle & do on occasion wrestle. Two grown men renting a room to wrestle, who would believe? I wonder if this is just natural with some males & it doesn't matter whether your straight, bi or gay. It's just a male thing. But, then some females wrestle also but, very few. Or, maybe we have more testosterone. In India they recognize that some have a need to wrestle & have places open to all sizes & ages if you want to wrestle somebody I think in the west there's too many hang ups about sex. To me this isn't about sex. I love sex but, I will wrestle a guy wether we have sex afterwards or not. Makes no difference to me.

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BelgiumWrestler (20)

5/10/2021 6:39 AM

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Good summary of the situation, I think.

Be careful in this pandemic period and enjoy !

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scottimike (26 )

8/21/2020 8:07 AM

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well said, writ or wrote

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twisterman (37 )

7/25/2020 9:54 PM

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I too have always had a strong need/desire to wrestle going back as far as I can remember which actively continues through to the present day.

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hellcatedy (41)

7/22/2020 2:36 AM

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Great post man! Yeah, it is a bonus when sex happens for those that are looking for that, but wrestling is such an awesome thing, and hot in itself.

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Trekie66 (0)

7/26/2020 8:15 AM

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I agree. I wish there wasn't a hang up here.

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PhoenixBigBear (20 )

7/07/2020 3:04 PM

Some really good honest observations here about why we wrestle. For me, it's a combination of letting out the erotic in a very primal, natural way, together with the excitement of getting out of our clothes with a guy and exploring the clash of our bodies and minds. Sure it's mental exercise as well as physical, ask any college wrestler.
I'm non-competitive in wrestling, yet the essence of wrestling is competition - that's unavoidable, because wrestling is two guys engaging in man2man combat. It's essentially what the two guys want from the combat - what the end is going to be that shapes the "style". So it ends up being unique to each individual wrestler.

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JerseyLuchador (10 )

6/04/2020 6:17 PM

As a young man I’ve always had a fantasy of fighting. I use to try to get into fights with friends. The action of two men testing each other always made me hard. It was always a great way to bond a friendship. To this day I fantasize about fighting with some men that I meet. It’s always been erotic to me.

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BigJobberStewie (0)

5/26/2020 12:15 AM

I have always liked watching wrestling on tv as a little kid. and now as an adult. I will always cheer for the jobber whether the jobber be a face or heel. What turned me on as a kid and was the start of my wrestling fetish was wrestling boots. I always loved when the camera would zoom in on a jobber being boot choked or a jobber being pinned with a boot on his chest, and sometimes face if the heel was Col. Debeers!

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Trekie66 (0)

11/13/2018 10:18 PM

I always like to wrestle since I was 5 years old. It seems I like boys in a young age, I notice I would stare at their butts ha ha. The only outlet for that was to wrestle them. To win or get defeated didn't matter to me as it felt good to fight. I always remember when my mother had to go to a doctor's appointment there was a kids waiting room. There's always a sure thing that I would find another boy to wrestle with. I always wish that when I see a handsome guy I can go up to him and ask him if he wants to wrestle without him freaking out of alternative motives lol. Another thought will be able to hypnotize someone to wrestle me will be cool.

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lescraggy (0)

8/06/2020 1:00 PM

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Honest and hot.

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guywhowrestles (0)

11/07/2018 3:43 PM

Great topic and questions you have raised about yourself and about others who love to wrestle, Azalku !! And with your questions there are probably 100 or more answers from 100 or more fellow wrestlers. Of course, wrestling in its many forms has been around for all of recorded history, so there is something about the competition between folks that has always captured human interest. I'm just going to put out a few thoughts and perhaps expand upon them or add other thoughts later or even answer questions if folks have any.

Firstly, of course, wrestling is an intense physical and mental sport. As with many sports, the experience of engaging in them brings a sort of satisfaction to the mind as well as the body, an escape, perhaps, for the mind from daily routines, and a demanding physical discipline of the body. None of that can be "bad" for any human able to so engage.

As to the nature of the erotic elements of wrestling, there are some quite obvious and some not-quite-so obvious aspects. Good wrestlers usually have well-toned, well disciplined bodies which are a pleasure to look at. The sight of two well-toned men locked together in competitive struggle appeals to us. And then there's the feel of wrestling another guy; it's ALSO pleasurable, even while there's momentary pain. Pain, of course, can be pleasurable; it's simply one "feedback mechanism" to the body, causing an action in response. Also, the sense of control (or lack of control) and stimulation from the body contact between two people brings a sense of mutual bonding from the struggle. As such, wrestling is very much a sensual experience, much as sex is a sensual as well as mental experience.

Since wrestling and sexuality are both sensual and mental experiences, I'd advise not going too too far in trying to draw lines or to confuse one's self with too much hyper-psychoanalysis. They are both simply human experiences and can be enjoyed as such. While wrestling is competitive in nature, it is also an expression of affection between two bodies, a sharing and a bonding, much like sexual activity most often is. In other words, it's just "human"..and should be enjoyed as such. Some folks get into it, some folks shy away from it entirely.

Lastly, in our modern world, there's lots of restrictions, warnings, myths and "wive's tales" about how two folks shouldn't be enjoying this aspect of our humanity. So we get all "hung up" on whether this is "good" or "bad", healthy or pathological. Those are the brakes society is placing upon our natural instincts, not really worthy of over analyzing. Just enjoy the reasonable, sane, physical and mental competition and affection you can have with fellow wrestling enthusiasts. Keep it simple, straightforward, candid and private. Revel in the life you can have enjoying the sport in whatever variety most entices you. Best wishes for a long healthy life of wrestling.

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headscissorschgonwburbs (23 )

7/19/2020 7:28 PM

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I like a good read

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Ryder (2)

6/04/2020 1:50 PM

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Very interesting observations in this thread. I see the posts are mostly two years old, so maybe the energy's gone out of it, but it's great to read about others' experiences of delving into their own psyches. Thank you for that. Sometimes I theorise about the possible origins of my wrestling kink, sometimes I observe what triggers me, and more rarely I just give myself up to the experience. I'm keen to think it over more, though, and hopefully not overthink it.

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lescraggy (0)

8/06/2020 3:12 PM

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I don't imagine the thrill thought of a wrestle will ever leave me.

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guywhowrestles (0)

6/04/2020 2:59 PM

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Good comment there, Ryder. Yes, no need to ".overthink it". I imagine it's just a natural thing among an array of turn-ons and excitements folks have when expressing themselves with their body.

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BuddyBeast (73 )

5/24/2020 7:24 PM

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Following this

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renguin (35)

3/16/2019 10:38 PM

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Bravo! Well said!

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hugefan (89)

11/07/2018 3:46 PM

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Excellently put and proof that hot and wise are not mutually exclusive.

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barefootdude (0)

11/04/2018 4:44 AM

i get off on it cause gettin naked and grindin against a smooth hott dude till u jizz is a good fucking way to cum. So wrestling with longhaired skinny boys is like fucking a girl only cock2cock is a way different thing.

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hugefan (89)

11/03/2018 1:29 PM

I'm not sure it's that complicated is it? Body contact, few clothes, skin on skin, muscle to muscle, a bit of sadism or masochism, the chance for a turn on without necessarily too much emotional attachment or full on sex. Wrestling is just sexy, I think men who don't get that should be in therapy ha ha. It's pretty harmless anyway apart from the risk of injury. So let's all be careful x

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grappling hooked (31)

11/02/2018 5:26 PM

I went through a year of therapy trying to figure out why I have this fetish.

The conclusion my therapist and I eventually came to, which may or may not be helpful to others, is this. When you have a strong, domineering parent (in my case, my mother) who is competitive and does not give an inch; who wins every conflict against you – and yet who is also the main source of love in your young life – as you get older, your sexuality can get tangled up in this need to conflict with and lose to an intimate opponent. I know it sounds cheesy to wrap this fetish up with one's mother (paging Dr. Freud!) but it really did make a lot of sense to me.

It didn't help me get rid of the fetish, of course, which was why I was going to therapy in the first place! But it did provide some interesting insight.

Your mileage, of course, may vary.

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SilverFoxFight (35)

11/02/2018 9:33 PM

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Yeah, I've had therapy too...was your motivation for going to therapy religious? Actually, neither the counseling nor a 12-step group that I went to for a while, help very much though everyone was sincere and quick to listen. The dominant person in our household growing up was my grandmother but, I doubt if she fits the Oedipus model that Freud presents. So I still don't know what to think. I've grown to accept the conflict, enjoy the wrestling/boxing when I can get it and set sexual boundaries, which some consider far too conservative while others consider far too liberal. I'm never quite comfortable in either world. Deano in Cincy

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grappling hooked (31)

11/02/2018 9:52 PM

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Was definitely not religiously motivated. I'm an atheist. :-)

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SilverFoxFight (35)

11/02/2018 9:58 PM

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That is interesting because I used to belong to an internet support group of guys who struggled with same sex attraction but didn't consider themselves gay. One day, a new member asked if anyone did NOT have religious reasons for seeking "change." There was an overwhelming silence. It really got me thinking that religious indoctrination was a strong factor in my lifestyle choices.

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ngw60 (0)

5/24/2020 9:52 PM

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Totally agree with you man and been down this proverbial road a thousand times. Strong faith and have been a part of a recovery group for years . Still have a million questions but don’t carry any of the guilt anymore.

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tonyfigur (5)

10/27/2018 11:10 PM

This is a topic that really interests me because I've never been attracted to wrestling but I get so tuned on by boxing. I've been attracted to boxing since I was a little boy and since puberty it has always turned me on. On the other hand, wrestling does nothing for me. I'd be interested in knowing why. Tony

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SilverFoxFight (35)

10/27/2018 11:32 AM

Thanks for you post; I have done a great deal of soul searching over the last forty years about this issue (and more than once with the help of a counselor). Now, I went through puberty at a very late age (mid twenties) and that may have some bearing on my "obsession" with masculinity and fighting sports but, on the other hand, I recall being fascinated with wrestling and wrestlers at a very young age (6 or 7) in front of black and white television in the 1960's. It was all fantasy back then as I was a small and shy kid and never wrestled or boxed until I was into my forties or fifties, nor would my religious upbringing allow it.

Imagine my surprise to find, in the Internet world of the 1990's, that there were other guys with the same "issues" (and my best friend today is a fellow wrestler). Well, after all the thinking about it and the counseling (and being told by one religious therapist that I was basically "going to hell)," I really do not have any answers but to enjoy the positives of competition and male bonding and set boundaries for myself sexually. Most guys don't see an "issue" here and I guess that's okay; others are conflicted. I am glad that we can discuss this as men and hope we can continue to dialog. Yours, Deano

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Wrestleguy40 (13)

10/26/2018 6:08 PM

I'm in the same boat. I have always loved wrestling and get hard at the mention of it. I love having control of someone and watching them squirm and beg in my headscissors and I also love being controlled. I don't read to much into why, i just accept it as the most amazing gift ever. There are far worse sexual fetishes we could all have.

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Azalku (23)

10/27/2018 11:39 AM

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I don’t think it is a bad fetish to have or that a particular fetish is ‘worse’ than any other. I was just wondering if my fetish might be telling me something about myself that I have yet to discover on a conscious level.
Could it be that I am trying to experience an emotional state that I have been utterly deprived of and desperate to experience?
If let’s say I would to bring two people with the same fetish (in my case, wrestling, headscissors, being controlled etc). Would this fetish Achieve the same desire for me as it does for you?
I read once that people who like to be abused show a trend of having pasts where they had to be in control, responsible in situations where they didn’t want to be or wern’t ready to be. Many had parents who would not stand for anything that they perceived as weakness. The result is creating a person who can withstand tons of pressure. Control and responsibility are an immense pressure. And by being overpowered and abused during wrestling and sexual role play, they get to loose control and with that Sense if control, the weight of responsibility gets lifted off their shoulders and is assumed by the dominant partner.
Now that is one theory I read that I feel somewhat applies to me but at the same time I feel it is contradictory as I like to be abused and be abusive and it would seem that explanations of what I am ‘seeking’ is contradictory.
Sorry to go off on a psychological tangent here, I am just thinking out loud and am wondering if anyone else might have dug a little deeper into why we have the fetishes that we do?

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jwest1111 (0)

4/05/2022 9:50 PM

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Agonophilia covers a broad range of sexual arousal, from fighting paraphernalia (boxing gloves, cups, headgear) and through the actual engagement in fighting (legitimate or fantasy). For those who actually fight the arousal is multi-dimensional. The combination of fighting gear, the physical contact with the opponent, and the actual fight is indescribable. Depending of the quality of the match, the sexual energy between the competitors, and the presence of spectators, some matches go to legitimate knockout, and sexual intercourse may follow with dominance and submissive roles determined by the outcome of the fight...I'd say an unknown number have it, and it is of unknown origin. Dominance and submission and possible early abuse or perceptions of oneself as weak and inadequate may have something to do with or possibly arousal at fighting for the first time or putting someone out.

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Shapeshifter (12)

10/26/2018 5:12 PM

Very interesting post! I can't add any insight into it unfortunately, I can only add that I'm the same, particularly if someone is being dominant with me in a match. For me it's not only the person being in control, but also them WANTING to be in control and enjoying what they're doing (if, for example, head scissoring). And wow, who wouldn't want to be a victim to cyclone74's legs? :D

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Steve B (0)

5/09/2021 12:33 PM

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100%in every aspect:)so many honest and truthful comments

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cyclone74 (25)

10/26/2018 9:59 PM

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You could come into my headscissors anytime

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cyclone74 (25)

10/25/2018 1:22 AM

I can see why you liked Mark lander and his amazing scissor, I jack off to him also. It’s an interesting question, do we get off to the abuse or the pleasure of being in malls contact!! The scissors are my greatest turn on, using them and then turning to being squeezed in them. This close contact to a guys Crotch and his mighty power legs can’t get any more erotic. Coming from a legs man myself, the squeezing is the ultimate pleasure . I don’t understand why all gay men are not into it. If You used your amazing legs on me I go weak at the knees

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Azalku (23)

10/24/2018 10:42 AM

I’ve been trying to figure out why and how did wrestling and being controlled or in control of someone became my sexual fetish.
I’ve read online about being abused or being abusive as a fetish and that how being abused might relate to having too much stress and pressure on your shoulders during childhood and that you enjoy being abused because you are realizing all responsibility to another person and vice versa with being abusive ......,, however I enjoy both those things and therefore the explanations become contradictory.
I sometimes think it is more simple than that because I remember stumbling upon mark lander wrestling videos online at the age of 13 and started to always imagine wrestling and being controlled when jacking off so maybe it’s just because of that.
Anyway I’m curious to know if anyone else has tried to do some deep searching within to try to find out and explain why we have certain sexual fetoshes?

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pressurelover (0)

6/25/2022 9:42 AM

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Interesting post. Wrestling in itself was never the fetish for me. Being trapped in scissor holds, choke holds as well as just being controlled was. It started for me when I was around 7. A group of friends and myself were getting to know some new kids on the block. Annoying their sister who was in her early teens and 5 or 6 inches taller than most of us. She jumped out of her chair and the chase was on and we scattered. Being the shortest of the group I was the one she tackled. Within seconds I found myself face down on the grass with her big legs wrapped around my waist. She began flexing and relaxing and when my friends came close to "rescue" me she would tighten really hard telling then I would be hurt if they came closer. They would back off and immediately come back and she would flex tight again. I got tired of their new game really quick but could do nothing about it. After that day my supposed best friends decided that they would continue the new game. I became their wrestling dummy and between the three of them they had contests to see who could make me tap the quickest, make me turn the reddest or make me cry. Years later I saw a psychiatrist to help get an explanation of why I liked being subjected to scissor holds specifically and then choke holds or bear hugs. He told me that when the girl tightened up on me then relaxed and tightened again it flipped a switch in my mind that that was pleasurable. He never did tell me how to unflip that switch. To this day if anyone says they can make me submit to a scissor hold I'll give them a chance to prove it even if I know I will tap.

I met 2 men through Craigslist a decade ago that really enjoyed having a shorter person to physically control and torment. One was 6'3" 255, he didn't look muscular, but damn was he strong. We got together every other week and once he got ahold of me there wasn't much I could do. We'd tussle for 5-10 minutes then he'd clamp me in a frontal head scissor and hold me there, flexing and relaxing while he read a book or watched a movie. Flexing and relaxing the entire time. When he would finally release me, I would be so dizzy. The second man told me in his response that he was a little over 6' and 230. After a few communications I met him at his place. He had a funny idea of what a little over 6' 230 was. He was 6'6" 275 to my 5'6" 190. After talking a little bit with me gazing at the size of this man we headed to his playroom. As we got to the door, he wrapped his right arm around my neck telling me I had 2 options.
Once inside I could strip down or, as he tightened his grip on my neck, he'd knock me out and when I came to. I'd be naked. Realizing he wasn't using any power I acquiesced. After stripping he put me in another choke hold and dragged me to the largest bed I'd ever seen. He turned and fell backward dragging me with him. As our bodies hit the mattress his huge legs wrapped around my legs and he released my neck grabbing my wrists with his hands and crossed my arms across my chest and tightly pulled me into his chest. It was an odd feeling, I was totally immobilized and felt a calmness come over me. In that moment I felt as safe as a baby in its mother's arm. When ever I tried to move he'd tighten up his arm or legs and occasionally both. At one point he arched his back while flexing his arms and legs and I felt like I was being torn apart. After several minutes of this he released my legs and move his up around my waist where he started flexing and relaxing, getting tighter every time. At one point he released one of my wrists and grabbed my package as he tightened his legs harder than he had before and exclaimed "you like this". After that exclamation, every time I exhaled he'd tighten harder. As I was frantically hitting his rock hard thigh and getting light headed he tells me If you this is bad, wait until you head is trapped. He could have crushed my head and I'm glad he didn't. I haven't had fun like that since those two moved away. And I'm sure it will never happen again.

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BamaJDon41 (7 )

6/25/2022 12:27 PM

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That's a very hot and exciting memory. I might have been tempted to follow the big guy after he moved.

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